Fear

The benefits of ACTION

It’s all well and good to understand the theory of things.

Like that your fears are keeping you stuck inside your cozy, safe little comfort zone and that in order to have the epically awesome life that you want, then you need to face those fears and bust through your comfort zone. That’s a truth that a lot of you I’m sure have heard before in one way or another…hopefully from me in the last few weeks! Oh, and if you haven’t, fear not, you can catch up on all of this HERE.

It’s one thing to know this about your comfort zone, but something differently entirely putting into practice in your life through action.

Where are you right now…have you got the theory down but are still paralyzed when it comes to taking action and doing what will ACTUALLY change your life?

Another way to ask that question would be asking how committed you are to creating the epic, awesome life that you want. Committed enough to do what might seem rather scary at the moment?

It isn’t until you take action, like actually take physical action, that any of this theory will do you any good. You can read and ponder and read some more and fool yourself into thinking that just because you know this stuff, your life will improve as a result.

It won’t. I tried that.

Failure to act on what you know will change your life is just procrastination, laziness, avoiding responsibility and letting fear run your life.

As the self-proclaimed queen of the Quarter Life Crisis (read all about that HERE), there was a decade there where I found my life to be a big waste of my life. I spent every weekday counting down to the weekend, only to spend Sunday living in dread of the week ahead. I was disconnected, frustrated and at a loss why my life no longer had the excitement, fun and happiness that it had so heavily featured until adulthood.

I hit a super duper low point when the guy I was convinced was my future husband completely disappeared on me after 3 months of dating (yeah, not that surprising really!). And it was at this point that I stumbled across mindfulness and learned that by changing my approach to life, my life would change. It wasn’t long till I pretty much put my life on hold for 6 months to spend every spare second I head learning EVERYTHING I possibly could about this new way of thinking.

It wasn’t till I took a moment to reflect that the huge of information I now knew about mindfulness hadn’t changed my life at all. And it was all because I was living my life day to day the exact same way I always had. I decided that moment that if I ever wanted the life I knew I deserved then I had to go actually live it.

It was time for seriously MASSIVE action and I was rewarded insanely quickly with the changes in my life I had only dreamed of until then. My dream job pretty much fell into my lap, a found an amazing new boyfriend (who is now my husband) and fairly quickly had plans to move to the country to be with him where I’ve never been happier.

“Action is the foundational key to all success.” 
– Pablo Picasso

Not to mention the fact that that just taking this action made me feel seriously alive for the first time in years. I felt like I was finally myself in the most happy, empowered, confident, unstoppable and fun loving version possible.

If my story hasn’t quite convinced you how amazing taking action can be for one’s life then here are the benefits of action neatly laid out for you:

  1. You will stop wasting your time

    Sitting around in indecision, doing nothing new will get you nothing but more of the same. Make a decision to take action (and ACTUALLY take it) and all of a sudden you’re heading somewhere. Not sure what action to take? DO ANYTHING, it really doesn’t matter. Do something you love, you have mad skills in, whatever your passionate about. It really doesn’t matter because as you start moving forward you’ll find that you’ll end up exactly where you need to be. It literally is magic!

  2. Action brings clarity

    This follows on from the point above that it seriously does not matter what action you decide to take, you WILL end up where you’re wanting to be. It’s all about failing forward, failing often and failing fast. And just so you’re aware, failure isn’t what you think it is, it is seriously just an opportunity to learn. That’s the thing, you take action, you either get the result you’re after or you learn some epic lesson that will still get you to the result you’re after.

    Here’s a super simple example. You decide you want a raise. You randomly meet your boss in the elevator and decide why not, I’ll ask her now for a raise. She says, ‘this is a super inappropriate way to ask for a raise, how about we talk some other time.’ So getting the raise was a bit of a fail but you just learnt how to go about asking so that next time you get it. Hello clarity!

  3. You’ll learn some epic lessons

    It really is one thing to understand that living in your comfort zone is holding you back and a completely different thing to do something about that in your own life. It is only when you put something into practice that you REALLY understand how and why it works for you and therefore how you can continue to progress towards the awesome life you’re after.

  4. A new perspective and a whole lot of confidence

    Taking action is the only way to really start living your life in a new and awesome way. It’s stepping out of the fear and indecision that are keeping you stuck where you are and when you take those first steps a whole new world will open up for you. Each step you take will also give you increasing amounts of confidence, power and all kinds of amazing feelings and it’s those feelings that are EXACTLY what you need to change your life.

I 100% get it though that the first step can be and really is the scariest to take. I know that feeling of indecision, fear of ‘failure’ and just having no idea where to go or what to do. I’ve been there and I know it completely sucks.

And it’s because I know how much it sucks that I’m so totally passionate and obsessed with helping anyone and everyone that is stuck where I was create their most awesome lives while having a ton of fun in the process.

Which is also why I’ve got a bit of a free challenge starting on the 11th March, 5 Days to Freedom, which will give you all the support, guidance and encouragement you need to start taking the baby steps that no joke have the potential to lead you to a whole new awesome life. Oh and did I mention it’s free?!? Yay!

Sign up HERE because it’s going to be awesome, so awesome that I’ll even be doing the challenge along with you (I get epic FOMO and I know how powerful this stuff can be at any stage of your life!). Hope to see you there because this is one epic opportunity to get your life headed in the direction you want it to be going.

Much love,
Emily xx

5 Reasons to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

For the last few weeks I’ve been chatting a ton about how fear can keep you locked safely within your comfort zone…and in a life that you’re not loving (catch up on all my previous posts HERE).

If you’re after massive life transformation then I hate to break it to you, but you’re NEVER EVER going to get it until you recognize how fear is holding you back and take the action required to get over it.

And if you need a little more convincing, because yes, the idea of facing your fears may not be particularly pleasant (though it does get waaaaaaay better I promise) then read on…

Here are the top 5 reasons (there are about 100000 more I could list…) why getting out of your comfort zone and smashing through your fears is THE BEST thing you’ll ever do for yourself:

  1. You’ll gain clarity

    If you’re anything like me when I was all stuck in my Quarter Life Crisis, you may be feeling insanely lost and confused about where you should be headed in life, let alone how to get there. I was paralyzed by indecision and as a result stayed exactly where I was in life, just getting a heap more frustrated, annoyed and disappointed with myself as the days, weeks and years progressed.

    It wasn’t until I hit the lowest point of my QLC (read more about that HERE if you so choose to) that I just said f!@# it, something has to change. I knew I had to start DOING something so threw myself at anything and everything that came my way; dance classes, random invitations out to places I usually wouldn’t have gone, dating like a champion, golf lessons, horse riding, going out alone, making new friends…you name it, I tried it.

    It was through this seemingly random action that I started to get the clarity I so badly needed about what I really wanted from life and how to get it. I started just following what seemed like my whims, but gradually I could see more specific opportunities come my way…like a project at work that led to a change in my job that led to my dream job or the pile of dates with ok guys, to the one where I met my now husband, which led to a move to the country with him where I’ve never been happier.

    Decide to take action, don’t over think it, just get out there are start doing stuff you wouldn’t usually do or keep putting off. Take whatever opportunities come your way because I promise you, you cannot predict the all kinds of awesome that will happen when you approach life this way. Life wants to unfold in the most epic way ever if you give it a chance to. But YOU have to start living it first.

  2. You’ll feel amazing

    Think back to being a kid and how awesome it felt when you first went the whole way across the monkey bars, worked out a long division problem in math (that one stillllll eludes me…), performed the lead role in the school play, learnt how to swim, went on your first date, got your driver's licence, the list goes on...

    Life back then was always full of firsts and new challenges and subsequently the high and all the awesome feelings associated with mastering something new and doing yourself proud.

    Getting outside your comfort zone will do the exact same thing for you now.

    It’s the fastest way to find new love for yourself, be proud of who you are and what you’ve accomplished, feel alive, empowered and like you can conquer the world. Oh and did I mention how much FUN it is too?!?!?! Because it can be the most fun ever, if you let it.

  3. You’ll welcome change

    Life is all about change. If you’re currently stuck in a life you’re not loving and you want something better, then you’re going to have to start welcoming change. And getting outside your comfort zone is welcoming change with your arms wide open. It’s finally declaring that you’re ready for the epic life you’ve been waiting for.

    Meeting your fears head on you will learn pretty quickly that there really isn’t anything to fear (except fear itself because that what keeps you in a crap life, thanks Roosevelt). You’ll find that every fear you tackle brings you some awesome new opportunity and that failure isn’t a thing if you don’t want it to be, it’s just an opportunity to grow.

    Once you seek these challenges you’ll find the way that you handle life’s ups and downs changes completely. You will be more resilient, confident and prepared. You will know you can tackle anything that comes your way and you’ll be set up for life.

  4. You’ll be epic

    Getting outside your comfort zone is how epic people become epic. This is because challenging yourself is the fastest way to grow.

    “A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there.”

    Consider your life currently living within you comfort zone? How epic is it? I’m guessing not very, which is why you’re reading this post.

    Think about all the cool people in the world that have done crazy amazing things; Richard Branson, Henry Ford, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, J.K Rowling, Serena Williams… Do you think that any of these people achieved what they have from staying within their comfort zone, playing safe, caring what other people thought of them or staying within societal expectations?

    Every wildly successful, or even moderately successful person takes risks and pushes themselves outside what they consider comfortable. They get comfortable being uncomfortable.

  5. You’ll end up closer to the life you want

    “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

    All of the four reasons above combine to bring you a whole lot closer to the awesome life that you’re after. Getting outside your comfort zone will throw you into the path of amazing new opportunities that weren’t previously available to you. As you meet each challenge you set yourself, your confidence will grow and if you continue to raise the bar higher, your life will improve exponentially.

If any of these reasons sound vaguely appealing to you then OMG you’re in luck because I happen to have created a FREE 5 DAY comfort zone smashing challenge, 5 Days to Freedom, that will not only have you feeling like the BEST and most EMPOWERED version of yourself, it will have you powering towards a life filled with all the fun and happiness you know your life can and should be giving you.

You just wait for the results.

When I set myself a similar challenge a few years ago, it seriously was only months till I landed my dream job, had an amazing new boyfriend (now my husband) and plans to move to the country where I am now and have never been so happy!

Not to mention the fact that I felt ALIVE for the first time in years. I felt like I was finally myself in the most happy, empowered, confident, unstoppable and fun loving version possible.

Because I get epic FOMO and I know how powerful this stuff can be, I’m going to be doing the challenge along with you all. I also get that getting out of your comfort zone can be a little scary so I’ve set up a Facebook Group for the challenge where we can have epic chats and a whole lot of fun doing it all together!

So…now’s your chance to take the plunge, step outside your comfort zone and start powering into the awesome life I know you want. Sign up HERE and totally grab a friend, or two, or more and sign them up too…let’s make this thing HUGE!